How much should one spend on a wedding?
Chapter 2

لاَ تَجْعَلْ يَدَكَ مَغْلُولَةً إِلَى عُنُقِكَ وَلاَ تَبْسُطْهَا كُلَّ الْبَسْطِ فَتَقْعُدَ مَلُوماً مَّحْسُوراً (سورۃ الاسراء, آية 29)

Make not thy hand tied (like a niggard's) to thy neck, nor stretch it forth to its utmost reach, so that thou become blameworthy and destitute. (Surah 17, Verse 29)

"The summer season is at hand, the season of joy and blessing," the imam declared as he began his Friday sermon. He added: "It is the season of joy, weddings and celebrations and each of us wants the whole world to share our joy. So we invite all our relatives, neighbors, friends and acquaintances to the celebrations we hold in our homes. I see no need to preach to you about the obligation incumbent on all of us to entertain all those who come to our homes. But it is my duty to remind you of the verse: "Make not thy hand tied (like a niggard's) to thy neck, nor stretch it forth to its utmost reach, so that thou become blameworthy and destitute."

"We have all heard of families who become bankrupt after paying for a wedding and we have all heard of weddings which shamed the celebrants. We must remember that Allah hates profligates who do not guard their money for the future and are forced to spend the rest of their lives in poverty. Allah also hates misers who spend their lives guarding their money, thereby stifling themselves and their families. Allah wants you to find the golden mean between profligacy and miserliness."

Explanation: A wedding is undoubtedly a significant event in the life of a family and of the couple and is usually celebrated only once in a lifetime. Hence, many families spend all their money on lavish and impressive weddings and go into debt which they spend years repaying. It is wrong to do so. There are enough important matters on which it is worth spending money rather than wasting it in order to impress others. Perhaps the young couple want to study, perhaps they need to purchase a home or to save money to guarantee security for their future. There is no shortage of important goals. The imam was right to instruct his congregation to seek the golden mean. It is possible to hold a modest celebration which shames nobody but does not entail uncontrolled squandering of money.