What is the importance of preparations for married life?
Chapter 2

قُل لِّلْمُؤْمِنِينَ يَغُضُّوا مِنْ أَبْصَارِهِمْ وَيَحْفَظُوا فُرُوجَهُمْ ذَلِكَ أَزْكَى لَهُمْ إِنَّ اللَّهَ خَبِيرٌ بِمَا يَصْنَعُونَ * وَقُل لِّلْمُؤْمِنَاتِ يَغْضُضْنَ مِنْ أَبْصَارِهِنَّ وَيَحْفَظْنَ فُرُوجَهُنَّ وَلَا يُبْدِينَ زِينَتَهُنَّ إِلَّا مَا ظَهَرَ مِنْهَا وَلْيَضْرِبْنَ بِخُمُرِهِنَّ عَلَى جُيُوبِهِنَّ وَلَا يُبْدِينَ زِينَتَهُنَّ إِلَّا لِبُعُولَتِهِنَّ أَوْ آبَائِهِنَّ أَوْ آبَاء بُعُولَتِهِنَّ أَوْ أَبْنَائِهِنَّ أَوْ أَبْنَاء بُعُولَتِهِنَّ أَوْ إِخْوَانِهِنَّ أَوْ بَنِي إِخْوَانِهِنَّ أَوْ بَنِي أَخَوَاتِهِنَّ أَوْ نِسَائِهِنَّ أَوْ مَا مَلَكَتْ أَيْمَانُهُنَّ أَوِ التَّابِعِينَ غَيْرِ أُوْلِي الْإِرْبَةِ مِنَ الرِّجَالِ أَوِ الطِّفْلِ الَّذِينَ لَمْ يَظْهَرُوا عَلَى عَوْرَاتِ النِّسَاء وَلَا يَضْرِبْنَ بِأَرْجُلِهِنَّ لِيُعْلَمَ مَا يُخْفِينَ مِن زِينَتِهِنَّ وَتُوبُوا إِلَى اللَّهِ جَمِيعاً أَيُّهَا الْمُؤْمِنُونَ لَعَلَّكُمْ تُفْلِحُونَ (سورۃ النور, آية 31-30)

Say to the believing men that they should lower their gaze and guard their modesty: that will make for greater purity for them: and Allah is well acquainted with all that they do. And say to the believing women that they should lower their gaze and guard their modesty; that they should not display their beauty and ornaments except what (must ordinarily) appear thereof; that they should draw their veils over their bosoms and not display their beauty except to their husbands, their fathers, their husbands' fathers, their sons, their husbands' sons, their brothers or their brothers' sons, or their sisters' sons, or their women, or the slaves whom their right hands possess, or male servants free of physical needs, or small children who have no sense of the shame of sex; and that they should not strike their feet in order to draw attention to their hidden ornaments. And O ye Believers! turn ye all together towards Allah, that ye may attain Bliss. (Surah 24, Verses 30-31)

Majdi, who is in the eleventh grade, constantly leers at the girls and makes suggestive comments to them. Salma, his classmate, sees other girls dressed in the latest fashion and envies them. Salah is shy and scared to talk to the girls in his class while Huda is afraid that someone might read her thoughts and punish her.

Explanation: these are a few examples of the dilemmas faced by adolescent boys and girls who are in great need of guidance and direction. They see their bodies changing rapidly and are not yet accustomed to their new appearance. They have new sexual urges, and sense social pressure from their peer group on various subjects. Intellectually speaking, they feel much cleverer than in the past. These boys and girls are undergoing far-reaching changes on the physiological, social, emotional and intellectual spheres. They are confused and seek guidance. Surah 16, Verse 64, says: "And We sent down the Book to thee for the express purpose, that thou shouldst make clear to them those things in which they differ, and that it should be a guide and a mercy to those who believe.." Indeed, young people need guidance and if they do not receive it from the Quran they will obtain inappropriate advice elsewhere. Thus, it is recommended to equip them with knowledge regarding marital life and not to hide anything from them. It is often a question of life and death, for example, where sexually-transmitted diseases are concerned.

It is recommended that they be divided into separate groups of boys and girls and that the lesson begin with Verses 30 and 31of Surah 10 which refers to the importance of modest conduct, for both boys and girls. Once they understand the importance of restraint and purity, other subjects can be discussed without embarrassment and without fear.