What can we say to a woman whose husband abuses her?
Chapter 2

فَتَوَلَّى عَنْهُمْ وَقَالَ يَا قَوْمِ لَقَدْ أَبْلَغْتُكُمْ رِسَالَةَ رَبِّي وَنَصَحْتُ لَكُمْ وَلَكِن لاَّ تُحِبُّونَ النَّاصِحِينَ (سورۃ الاعراف, آية 79)

So Salih left them, saying: "O my people! I did indeed convey to you the message for which I was sent by my Lord: I gave you good counsel, but ye love not good counselors!" (Surah 7, Verse 79)

Samira and Amira, are good friends who grew up in the same neighborhood and are in the same ninth-grade class. They confide in one another and support one another in good times and bad. One day Samira told Amira that she was in a relationship with the neighbor's son and loved him. Amira was stunned and tried to dissuade Samira. "You know he's a delinquent and a drug-trader," she said. But nothing she said had any effect, and Samira was as stubborn as a mule. "Nobody can change my mind," she announced. A week later Amira noticed that Samira's eye was swollen and bruised and asked her what had happened. Samira told her that she had fallen and hurt her eye. Amira shouted at her that she was endangering her life by staying with that boy. Samira accused her of being envious of her for having a boyfriend and of hating her. Amira was very hurt, wept and did not know what to do.

She tried to defend herself but eventually summoned up strength and said to Samira: "I want to quote to you a verse from the Quran. Try to understand what it means and then we'll talk," she said, and read out: ""O my people! I did indeed convey to you the message for which I was sent by my Lord: I gave you good counsel, but ye love not good counselors!"

Then, for the first time, Samira was taken aback, began to think and burst into tears.

Explanation: Amira utilized the verse from the Quran in which the Prophet spoke to the people in order to underline her arguments. She knew that she was right and her friend was misguided, and so did not hesitate to use the quotation to save her. Indeed, Samira was infatuated with a boy who did not have her best interests at heart and could do her great harm. As to why she was she attracted to a delinquent, and moreover without her parents' knowledge - we cannot answer that question. Regrettably, she is not alone in her behavior. She may have been led to act like that because her father was a weak figure and she was seeking a strong man. Perhaps the reverse is true: her father was violent towards her and she was repeating her experiences by choosing a violent mate. In any event, she was displaying masochistic tendencies, thereby inviting violence. This is the sad story of many women whose husbands batter them until their lives are at risk but who refuse to leave the abusive partner. In cases where it is abundantly clear to the onlooker that someone is acting in self-destructive fashion and is not accepting advice, this verse is highly appropriate.