What can we say to a man who is unfaithful to his wife?
Chapter 2

وَالَّذِينَ هُمْ لِفُرُوجِهِمْ حَافِظُونَ * إِلَّا عَلَى أَزْوَاجِهِمْ أوْ مَا مَلَكَتْ أَيْمَانُهُمْ فَإِنَّهُمْ غَيْرُ مَلُومِينَ * فَمَنِ ابْتَغَى وَرَاء ذَلِكَ فَأُوْلَئِكَ هُمُ الْعَادُونَ (سورۃ المؤمنون, آية 7-5)

The believers must eventually win through...Who abstain from sex;
Except with those joined to them in the marriage bond, or (the captives) whom their right hands possess, for (in their case) they are free from blame, But those whose desires exceed those limits are transgressors.
(Surah 23, Verses 1, 5-7)

Ali was tired of explaining that he did not want to marry Sausan. He felt nothing towards her, neither love nor attraction. He was twenty-nine and she a girl of nineteen who did not understand him. He liked her as a cousin or a friend but found it hard to imagine her as his wife. In the end Ali gave in and married Sausan. Now she is heavily pregnant and cannot accompany him when he goes out. In the past he avoided going out with her because of her head covering and now her heaviness and exhaustion are additional factors.

One day Ali is invited to the wedding of a friend from work and asks Sausan to accompany him but she is feeling ill and refuses. He attends the wedding alone. He is uncomfortable sitting at the table with his friends and their wives and goes out to the balcony to smoke a cigarette. Suddenly a woman comes out and asks him for a light. He lights her cigarette and that is how he becomes acquainted with Amal. When they part at the end of the evening they promise to stay in touch.

Their friendship grows closer and they begin a sexual relationship. Sausan senses that Ali has changed and become distant and cool. He is indifferent towards her and their newborn baby. When she tries to discuss this with him, he leaves the house, slamming the door angrily. Then she weeps because she has driven her husband away.

One day she decides to confide in her mother. "I think he has another woman," she says. Her mother replies: "We will send your brother to follow him. Then you can get all that nonsense out of your head."

Sausan's brother tails Ali and sees him meeting Amal. He tells his mother and sister. That same day Sausan's family summon Ali for a discussion and tell him they have proof he is cheating on his wife, which is forbidden by their religion. Ali replies that he sees nothing wrong in his actions. "I live with a wife I did not choose. My family chose her. From the outset I didn't want this marriage and I love Amal."

Then Sausan's mother opens the Quran and reads him verses 1, 5,6,7 from Surah 23: The believers must eventually win through......Who abstain from sex; Except with those joined to them in the marriage bond, or (the captives) whom their right hands possess, for (in their case) they are free from blame, But those whose desires exceed those limits are transgressors.

Explanation: There is no way of telling how Ali and Sausan's relationship will develop. But when a marriage is arranged through pressure, the chance of such an outcome is greater. An age difference creates distance between the couple, particularly in the case of young people where a gap of only a few years can be significant. A disparity in the degree of religious observance can also create difficulties. Ali was not interested in Sausan and agreed to marry her because she was his cousin and his family were exerting pressure. But nonetheless Ali is an adult and responsible for his actions and Sausan's mother was right to put him in his place with the help of the Quran.