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What can we say to a girl who is arrogant?
Chapter 3

لاَ جَرَمَ أَنَّ اللّهَ يَعْلَمُ مَا يُسِرُّونَ وَمَا يُعْلِنُونَ إِنَّهُ لاَ يُحِبُّ الْمُسْتَكْبِرِينَ (سورۃ النحل, آيۃ 23)

Undoubtedly, Allah doth know what they conceal, and what they reveal: verily He loveth not the arrogant. (Surah 16, Verse 23)

Nada, a twelfth-grader, is a beautiful girl and always wears expensive clothes since she is the only daughter of a prosperous family. Her father owns a number of businesses and pampers her. He has bought her a new car which she drives to school every day. In class she behaves as if she is better than everyone else and boasts that her father is the richest man in the village. Nada does not make friends with her classmates, does not talk to them because they do not belong to her social class and looks down on them.

Nada's conduct annoys her classmates and they have discussed it with their teacher. He invites her for a talk and tried to explain to her how her classmates feel. He tells her it is not worth her while to cut herself off from everyone and to arouse envy and anger. He adds that Allah loves the modest. Then he asks her to open the Quran and to read Verse 23: "Undoubtedly, Allah doth know what they conceal, and what they reveal: verily He loveth not the arrogant."

Nada thinks things over and several days later comes back to her teacher and tells him that she understands that her conduct was wrong and that she needs to follow a different path so that people will like her. She begins to approach her classmates and talk to them and makes some good friends.

Explanation: we know that often arrogance disguises a sense of inferiority. It is not evident outwardly but felt deeply within. Often people who are arrogant towards others are trying to compensate for their sense of inferiority. In any event, Nada is the loser thereby because the people around her do not like her and she is isolated in her arrogance. Sometimes such an attitude can be infuriating because it indicates contempt. Her classmates were right to appeal to the teacher for help instead of taking revenge on her in various ways. The teacher first gave her a brief lesson in understanding her classmates' feelings. He explained to her the effect her conduct was having. Then he utilized the Quran to convey the clear message that God does not like the arrogant. It is likely that without the Quran verse, the teacher would not have succeeded in persuading Nada to change her ways. One verse from the Quran can have a greater impact than the combined protracted efforts of a number of teachers.