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What can we say to someone who helped his friend and was not thanked?
Chapter 6

وَاصْبِرْ فَإِنَّ اللّهَ لاَ يُضِيعُ أَجْرَ الْمُحْسِنِينَ (سورۃ هود, آية 115)

And be steadfast in patience; for verily Allah will not suffer the reward of the righteous to perish. (Surah 11, 115)

Aisha is in the fifth grade in the Shalom school. She is an outstanding pupil because, as everyone knows, her sister Amira sits with her for two hours every day and coaches her. The family are relatively poor.

One day the teacher asked Aisha: "How come you are such a good student despite the difficulties in your home?" Aisha replied that it was all thanks to her own efforts, because she worked very hard. The teacher knew Amira because she had taught her as well. Because of the family's financial straits, Amira had dropped out of school and begun to work to help her parents raise her siblings. One day, Amira visited Aisha at school and met the teacher. Amira asked her about her sister and told the teacher what she thought everyone knew, that she spent two hours every day helping Aisha. The teacher replied: "Yes...yes, certainly, she succeeds because of your help". Amira asked if anyone had said something different and the teacher said that Aisha had told her how Amira helped her.

The teacher decided to summon Aisha for a talk. She started out by saying that she wanted her to give her sister, Amira as a gift a verse from the Quran: "And be steadfast in patience; for verily Allah will not suffer the reward of the righteous to perish." Aisha realized that the teacher had talked to Amira, and now she apologized for having tried to deprive her sister of her due. Then the teacher suggested that she thank her sister for all her help over the years.

Explanation: life is full of examples of situations where someone helps another and is not thanked. Not everyone is capable of saying thank you. Acknowledgement of help demands a degree of maturity and renunciation of the illusion that one has achieved everything alone. Aisha wants to persuade everyone that she is an outstanding pupil because of her own talents and that her sister has no part in her success. Is this a form of boastfulness? Perhaps. But the Quran commands us to behave humbly and to tell the truth, particularly in light of the fact that Aisha's sister gave up her studies in order to help her siblings. Aisha has succeeded thanks to the sacrifice made by her sister on behalf of the family.