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What can we say to a boy who lies constantly?
Chapter 7

وَلاَ تَكُونُواْ كَالَّتِي نَقَضَتْ غَزْلَهَا مِن بَعْدِ قُوَّةٍ أَنكَاثاً تَتَّخِذُونَ أَيْمَانَكُمْ دَخَلاً بَيْنَكُمْ أَن تَكُونَ أُمَّةٌ هِيَ أَرْبَى مِنْ أُمَّةٍ إِنَّمَا يَبْلُوكُمُ اللّهُ بِهِ وَلَيُبَيِّنَنَّ لَكُمْ يَوْمَ الْقِيَامَةِ مَا كُنتُمْ فِيهِ تَخْتَلِفُونَ (سورۃ النحل, آيۃ 92)

And be not like a woman who breaks into untwisted strands the yarn which she has spun, after it has become strong. Nor take your oaths to practise deception between yourselves, lest one party should be more numerous than another: for Allah will test you by this; and on the Day of Judgment He will certainly make clear to you (the truth of) that wherein ye disagree. (Surah 16, Verse 92)

Ali, who is in the twelfth grade, makes many promises to his parents which he does not keep. He asks for the car and promises to return it in time but then returns two hours late. His parents are very worried. Sometimes he asks permission from his parents to go somewhere and then goes elsewhere. When he is caught, he promises that this is the last time he will break a promise or the last time he will lie but he keeps his word only till the next promise. His parents have tried everything from serious talks and explanations to threats and punishment. Nothing helped. Ali continued to lie and to break his promises. In their predicament, his parents consulted the school counselor. She opened the Quran which lay on the desk and asked Ali to read out verse 92 of Surah 16: "And be not like a woman who breaks into untwisted strands the yarn which she has spun, after it has become strong. Nor take your oaths to practise deception between yourselves, lest one party should be more numerous than another: for Allah will test you by this; and on the Day of Judgment He will certainly make clear to you (the truth of) that wherein ye disagree". When Ali finished reading the verse, he was flooded with a sense of heavy responsibility. "No, I won't use promises and oaths in order to cheat", he said. "I didn't know that the Quran was talking about me and referring to me". And from that day on, Ali tried hard not to make promises but when he did promise, he usually kept his word.

Explanation: truth is a very important value. When someone promises and does not keep his word or when he takes a false oath he is actually deceiving the other and perhaps himself as well. These deceptions destroy a society, because they create a society in which it is impossible to believe anyone and a word is worth nothing. In such a society, you cannot know what will happen tomorrow and uncertainty reigns. It is not easy to adhere to the truth but it is a vital condition required if we are not to exist in a living hell. Hence, children must be taught first and foremost to be loyal to their inner truth. When they do not tell the truth, they should feel uncomfortable, since they have betrayed themselves and others. In such a society there are many difficult moments. One man will tell another that he does not agree with him, instead of nodding his head and deluding the other into believing that he agrees in order to maintain the illusion of good relations. He will argue and confront the other because the truth is important and not the illusion. When an illusion is shattered, because at the decisive moment, truth will out, the disappointment is great. The Quran has no equal in conveying the vast important of telling the truth.