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Is a promise to God also a promise to oneself?
Chapter 7

وَلاَ تَشْتَرُواْ بِعَهْدِ اللّهِ ثَمَناً قَلِيلاً إِنَّمَا عِندَ اللّهِ هُوَ خَيْرٌ لَّكُمْ إِن كُنتُمْ تَعْلَمُونَ (سورۃ النحل, آيۃ 95)

Nor sell the covenant of Allah for a miserable price: for with Allah is (a prize) far better for you, if ye only knew. (Surah 16, Verse 95)

When Maali came into the house, she heard her father talking on the telephone to a woman, saying flattering things to her and suggesting that they meet in a hotel. Maali was stunned. She rushed out, furious at her father. He was known to b a religious man, who prayed observantly. The relations between her parents had been good till six months previously, when he began to stay away from home at night. Her mother had protested but he explained that his work demanded absences.

Now Maali ran to her aunt, her father's sister, and told her the story. The aunt approached her brother and talked to him. "What is going on with that woman?" she asked. "How can you leave everything, your family, your wife who is a good woman, your children; you are a religious man! Have you forgotten that Allah sees everything? Why are you abandoning everything for a woman who can't be worth it if she treats you like that?! I want to read you a verse from the Quran: "Nor sell the covenant of Allah for a miserable price: for with Allah is (a prize) far better for you, if ye only knew". And do not forget that a man's commitment to God to be faithful to his wife is also a commitment to himself. You must honor God and yourself and break off this relationship at once!"

Explanation: the aunt was right in saying that a commitment to God is a commitment to oneself because God is within each of us. When Maali's father promised at his wedding to be faithful to his wife, he was promising God and also himself. When he lies to God he is also lying to himself. For children, God is external rather than within them and they tend to tell the truth because they fear the wrath of God. But when an individual matures and becomes an adult, the divine experience becomes a part of himself. If he lies to his wife, he is in conflict not only with God but also with himself, and feels guilty for having injured her. He is liable to regret what he has done. When the external conflict between him and his God becomes an internal conflict, wages with himself, it is a sign of maturity. If Maali's father has a conscience, it will punish him and make him aware that he has betrayed his wife and has not been a good husband. And if he lacks a conscience, the wrath of God will hover over him because of his action. Thus, his sister did well to quote a verse from the Quran to remind him of his commitment to God and to himself.