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How can we encourage restraint?
Chapter 8

وَلَقَدْ نَعْلَمُ أَنَّكَ يَضِيقُ صَدْرُكَ بِمَا يَقُولُونَ * فَسَبِّحْ بِحَمْدِ رَبِّكَ وَكُن مِّنَ السَّاجِدِينَ (سورۃ الحجر, آية 97-98)

We do indeed know how thy heart is distressed at what they say. But celebrate the praises of thy Lord, and be of those who prostrate themselves in adoration. (Surah 15, Verses 97-98)

Samir, a high-school mathematics teacher, is known to be a teacher who does everything possible for his pupils and always makes sure that they all understand the lessons. One day, when he came into the classroom after a matriculation exam, a riot began. The pupils claimed that the exam had been too difficult and that he was to blame. Samir became angry and asked them all to sit down. Then one of the pupils started shouting and using unacceptable language. Samir was angry but because he loved his pupils he said nothing and merely said to that pupil: "Thank you for your attitude", and walked out of the classroom. His other pupils, who worshipped him, followed him and apologized for what their comrade had said. Samir did not respond.

Then Ahmed, a well-behaved boy, who always read the Quran, said to Samir: "It's true that someone talked to you in a way that made you angry. But I want to tell you something and please remember it, because God knows that you give your heart and soul. There will always be people who say inappropriate things. But at such times remember the verse: "We do indeed know how thy heart is distressed at what they say. . But celebrate the praises of thy Lord, and be of those who prostrate themselves in adoration". Then Samir embraced Ahmed and said: "Ahmed, you are truly a wise boy".

Explanation: it happens to all of us at some time that somebody says hurtful and untrue things to us. This was what happened to Samir. He is not responsible for the examinations administered by the Ministry of Education. The pupils apologized to him but it was hard for him to forget. What helped him to accept the apology and overcome his anger was the Quran verse which relates that the Prophet too was once in a similar situation and Allah commanded him to exercise restraint and continue along the path of righteousness. To practice self-control is not easy and is not self-evident, but it is very important. Otherwise, anything or anyone can infuriate us and cause us to do things which we will regret. Ahmed restored Samir's independence and he again became his own master. The Quran encourages independence, restraint and self-control.