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How can we persuade warring families to refrain from violence and make peace?
Chapter 9

وَكَذَلِكَ أَنزَلْنَاهُ حُكْماً عَرَبِيّاً وَلَئِنِ اتَّبَعْتَ أَهْوَاءهُم بَعْدَ مَا جَاءكَ مِنَ الْعِلْمِ مَا لَكَ مِنَ اللّهِ مِن وَلِيٍّ وَلاَ وَاقٍ (سورۃ الرعد, آية 37)

Thus have We revealed it to be a judgment of authority in Arabic. Wert thou to follow their (vain) desires after the knowledge which hath reached thee, then wouldst thou find neither protector nor defender against Allah. (Surah 13, Verse 37)

Two friends, Ahmed and Munir, went to the class teacher and told her that they were good friends but that there was a dispute between their families and they didn't want it to affect their friendship. The teacher approached Ahmed's parents and explained that Ahmed was very friendly with Munir and was suffering because of the rivalry between the families. Ahmed's parents were persuaded and agreed to make peace with Munir's family, who refused. They claimed that Ahmed's family were always the ones who started hostilities. The teacher told them that Ahmed's family had already expressed their willingness to make peace and she explained how beneficial this would be for their children. To reinforce her remarks, she quoted from the Quran: "Thus have We revealed it to be a judgment of authority in Arabic. Wert thou to follow their (vain) desires after the knowledge which hath reached thee, then wouldst thou find neither protector nor defender against Allah.". "You have been endowed with knowledge," she told Munir's parents. "You must not follow your anger and desire for revenge but seek peace". Munir's parents were persuaded to open a new page in relations with Ahmed's family.

Explanation: Generally, in Western societies, parents are less involved in disputes between children, because the children tend to be more independent. In traditional societies, friendship between children or parents often leads to friendship among other relatives, and the relationships are more familial than individual. This can create problems, as in the case of Ahmed and Munir. The teacher was right to recommend a sulha, if not for their own sake then for the sake of their children. She was not only persuading the parents to make peace but also teaching them that sometimes the wishes of the child should be central, particularly when they are positive wishes.