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How can we make peace between quarreling children?
Chapter 10

وَاعْتَصِمُواْ بِحَبْلِ اللّهِ جَمِيعًا وَلاَ تَفَرَّقُواْ وَاذْكُرُواْ نِعْمَةَ اللّهِ عَلَيْكُمْ إِذْ كُنتُمْ أَعْدَاء فَأَلَّفَ بَيْنَ قُلُوبِكُمْ فَأَصْبَحْتُم بِنِعْمَتِهِ إِخْوَانًا وَكُنتُمْ عَلَىَ شَفَا حُفْرَةٍ مِّنَ النَّارِ فَأَنقَذَكُم مِّنْهَا كَذَلِكَ يُبَيِّنُ اللّهُ لَكُمْ آيَاتِهِ لَعَلَّكُمْ تَهْتَدُونَ (سورۃ آل عمران, آيۃ 103)

And hold fast, all together, by the rope which Allah (stretches out for you), and be not divided among yourselves; and remember with gratitude Allah's favour on you; for ye were enemies and He joined your hearts in love, so that by His Grace, ye became brethren; and ye were on the brink of the pit of Fire, and He saved you from it. Thus doth Allah make His Signs clear to you: That ye may be guided. ((Surah 3, Verse 103)

Said and Sami, tenth-graders, were leaders in the classroom, each with his own followers. When a boy from one group squabbled with a boy from the other group, the outcome was violence. Boys who did not belong to either group were forced to join one of them in order to enjoy protection. The atmosphere in the classroom was chaotic and the violence spread to other classes.

The principal summoned all the teachers for an urgent meeting because the situation was intolerable. It was decided to assemble all the tenth graders and to explain new rules to them according to which violence, even verbal violence, would not be tolerated. It was decided to explain to them what was permitted and what was forbidden, to emphasize that anyone who did not observe the rules would not be permitted to remain in the class. The principal also proposed conducting a sulha and telling the pupils that they must live together like brothers since otherwise the situation would deteriorate. He started by reading from the Quran: "And hold fast, all together, by the rope which Allah (stretches out for you), and be not divided among yourselves; and remember with gratitude Allah's favour on you; for ye were enemies and He joined your hearts in love, so that by His Grace, ye became brethren; and ye were on the brink of the pit of Fire, and He saved you from it. Thus doth Allah make His Signs clear to you: That ye may be guided".

Explanation: a child must be free of fear in order to focus on learning. The task of the teachers and the principal is to enable each pupil to study without fear. Many pupils are afraid of violence and are reluctant to talk about it. A teacher who ignores violence or grants preferential treatment to a violent pupil will pay a high price. Pupils who are not violent will gain the impression that their teacher fears violence and this will reinforce their own fears. A nervous pupil will find it hard to solve mathematical exercises or to create and the democratic spirit which should prevail in the classroom will vanish and be replaced by the rule of fear. Parents too have an obligation to ensure that their children are free to study and are not ruled by fear. The Quran verse encourages pupils to become friends and foster a warm atmosphere in the classroom.