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What can we say to a child who is mocked?
Chapter 11

أَمْ حَسِبْتُمْ أَن تُتْرَكُواْ وَلَمَّا يَعْلَمِ اللّهُ الَّذِينَ جَاهَدُواْ مِنكُمْ وَلَمْ يَتَّخِذُواْ مِن دُونِ اللّهِ وَلاَ رَسُولِهِ وَلاَ الْمُؤْمِنِينَ وَلِيجَةً وَاللّهُ خَبِيرٌ بِمَا تَعْمَلُونَ (سورة التوبة, آية 16)

Or think ye that ye shall be abandoned, as though Allah did not know those among you who strive with might and main, and take none for friends and protectors except Allah, His Messenger, and the (community of) Believers? But Allah is well- acquainted with (all) that ye do. (Surah 9, Verse 16)

Seif, a third-grader who suffers from a learning disability, complained to the teacher that the pupils in his class mock him and laugh at him because he has difficulty reading and writing. Resentful and helpless, he asked the teacher to permit him to study at home and not come to school at all. She tried to explain the gravity of his request and explained that he would be the one to suffer and not his classmates. "If you stop coming to school", she said, "they will have achieved what they wanted and will be very satisfied". She told him that children with learning disabilities often feel a continual sense of failure which undermines their sense of their own worth. Sometimes they fear authority because things are difficult for them and they err in reading social situations because they interpret everything as directed again them. "That is what happened to you", she added, "and what is occurring is a test from God. He wants to see how you behave in this situation, which is not simple. You must restrain yourself and learn to adapt to a difficult situation and you will slowly acquire tools and skills that will help you to make progress. In the future, you will undoubtedly encounter more problems and you will learn how to overcome them and to adapt to your framework. You must believe in yourself and in God in order to overcome obstacles. I want to give you as a gift a verse from the Quran which relates to another context but is appropriate for you. "Or think ye that ye shall be abandoned, as though Allah did not know those among you who strive with might and main, and take none for friends and protectors except Allah, His Messenger, and the (community of) Believers? But Allah is well- acquainted with (all) that ye do".

"That verse really suits me", Seif replied with a smile.

Explanation: how can one fortify a child who is mocked or is the scapegoat for his classmates? If he believes those who humiliate him, he will lose all his self-confidence and self-esteem and nothing good can come of that. He must have faith in himself, in God and perhaps also in a handful of "believers" - in other words, those who still appreciate him. Seif needs to gather strength, ignore those who are harassing him and rely on himself. But who can help him in that task if not God, Who knows the truth. Allah Knows that Seif is a good boy who makes a great effort but suffers from a disability, and does not deserve to be treated badly. The teacher did well by linking Seif's need to rely on himself with his faith in God. She added that Allah was testing him and thus set him a goal: to prove that he has faith in himself and in God and not to despair. All this was achieved through the important Quran verse which is appropriate whenever the individual feels weak and alone.